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I’m Jerome Viveiros. I was born in Mowbray, Cape Town, South Africa on the 22nd October 1971.
I had a more or less average life for a while until the age of 33… I had a good middle-class upbringing, in a loving family where I was the eldest of two brothers, and after school I studied Electrical Engineering. I became a software developer, and progressed fairly normally from junior, through intermediate level, and finally became a senior developer.
But around the same time I became a senior developer, due to several personal issues, I also became a drug addict, with methamphetamine as my drug of choice. This began a downward spiral which lasted for five years and at first only left me demoted from senior back to intermediate developer level, but eventually left me with nothing; no possessions, no car, no house, no job, nothing but a couple of pairs of shorts and t-shirts.
I then went to a treatment centre for three months, and relocated to Johannesburg, where I was fortunate enough to find employment in my first week. My girlfriend and I are still together more or less, which is also fortunate (to say the least) since most addicts lose their loved ones, and we have a beautiful son, who is a little over two and a half years old as I write this.
When I first started this blog, on 28/07/2010, I was a little over 8 months clean, having cleaned up on 20/11/2009. I made it to a little over 9 months clean, then my world fell apart again. Just two days before our son was to live with us for good, Megan, without telling me, packed her bags and ran away to Cape Town. I tried to cope, and remained in contact with her. Knowing that she had relapsed, I convinced her not to use again, and she returned a week later, testing negative in her drug test. I deceived myself into thinking that since she could remain clean again for a week after using once, that we could hide the relapse and carry on as though nothing had gone wrong. But I was wrong. After she returned, we relapsed together for a week.
Megan returned to Cape Town for a while, and after a little over 60 days, we were reunited. She is less stable than I, but is also clean. I try to be strong for both of us, and do my utmost to make a life of sobriety for both of us a reality, so that we are able to give our son the loving, stable home that he deserves, and maybe be capable of raising more children sometime down the line. I am counting my clean time from 13/09/2010.
This blog is about me, my struggles with addiction, my other half who I intend to eventually marry, our son, and maybe a little programming bits and bytes now and then. Mostly it is a place for me to exorcise my demons, and if I can help or inspire one or two other people along the way, that is a welcome side effect.
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